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Your Definitive Church Shopping Guide
I used to be a waiter when I was 16. My first job was working for A&W in my hometown. It had drive-in car service and homemade root beer in chilled glass mugs. We had regulars we loved to serve, but we also had regulars we didn’t like at all. Diet Lady was one of them. She came every week on Tuesday and ordered 1 medium diet root beer and 2 coney dogs (since Tuesday was BOGO). She was nice enough, but she never tipped, that’s never, as in never. We made $2.85 an hour, and we relied on tips to even make the trip to town worth it. Being…
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This Is the Reason Your Life Hasn’t Changed
Ladders are not my friends. For the most part we get along, but it’s a mutual distrust. We used to be closer, but I was betrayed. I was doing some paint touch-ups in our great room near the skylights. As we prepped our house to sell, our realtor recommended we clean them up and paint around them. It was an ordeal finding a ladder that could reach that high. My step ladder didn’t quite extend high enough, and I respected ladders enough not to stand on the top rung 15 feet in the air. So I improvised. I stacked cinder blocks 2 high as a platform for each ladder foot…
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Dealing with Disappointment
I’m dealing with a range of emotion right now as I sit down to write. In general my life is really good. I am healthy, my family is flourishing, and I have a good community. I have gainful employment doing meaningful work in the world. I have a solid church family, great in-laws, and friends who love me. So why do I feel such disappointment? Don’t get me wrong. All those things are so important to me. If one of those things becomes off-balance or disappears entirely my life would be much less enjoyable. I would immediately have to rearrange all the other priorities of life to backfill the void…
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The Two Most Life-Changing Words EVER
Words are powerful. Nothing else has the power to destroy or heal, to build or tear down, to mend or rip apart. In fact, just two words have powerfully changed my life. “I do.” “It’s inoperable.” “She’s dead.” “I’m sorry.” “You’re hired.” I would guess that you’ve heard some of those yourself. Even now, just reading the words on the screen, those two little words bring a flood of emotion and memory. You remember where you were standing, what you were wearing, what day it was when you heard them. A mere two words can have a powerful effect on who we are and who we become. They can shape…
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Should Christians Swear?
My father was a kind man, but he struggled with anger. There was a battle inside him between his vision for how things should be and how they actually were. That’s what bothered him. It wasn’t the angering thing itself but that it represented a failure on his part to make the situation right, to control the world around him. He never swore at us kids, but my dad was a champion at using swear words when he worked. In fact, when our dad was working on cars or the tractor, my older sister and I would get each other so we could eavesdrop on him while he worked. It…
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5 Ways to Pray
There’s no way to make an ice cream sundae wrong. Do you like bananas? Throw some in. Do you like chocolate syrup? Pour it on. Do you like sprinkles, cherries, whipped cream, walnuts or pickles? Go ahead and…wait, pickles? Ok, put those on there too. We’re only imagining, right? The point is that we all have different tastes. We all have a different history with ice cream and we know what we like. And unless you’re lactose intolerant, making an ice cream sundae should excite you. The last couple weeks we’ve been talking about how to pray. You can check those out here and here. Both weeks stressed the main…
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How to pray pt 2
As a writer I am constantly tempted to use more words than necessary, especially when I’m excited about a topic. Even in conversation with someone I drift into passionate unnecessary descriptions. My words are like water breaking through a dam; once they find a crack they’re gushing out. You know what I don’t get though? Why doesn’t this same verbosity apply to my prayer life? Ask me about politics, the bible, American football, professional wrestling or the best way to prepare squirrel, and you’ll probably get an earful. (Go ahead. I dare you to ask me about squirrel and noodle casserole.) But when I’m sitting in the presence of God,…
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How to Pray pt 1
When my wife and I go on a date, I try lots of different ways to keep the conversation going. We just celebrated our 14th anniversary this past week (woot woot!), and after so long, it’s hard to find a topic we haven’t discussed. We’ve had conversations about mundane topics like paint color and origami. We’ve had conversations about politics, relationships, work, parenting, life, and death. When you’ve been with the same person for so long, finding a new topic takes work. When we’re out to dinner alone, rather than succumb to the temptation to immerse ourselves in our phones I look for lulls and then I spring into action.…
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Who is Jesus? pt 2
I’m good at interviews. I don’t say that to sound proud or boastful, but I’ve had a lot of success and coached a lot of people to getting hired. Several years ago I began to understand how interviews work: what employers are looking for, how I come across to others, and what kinds of questions they will ask me. But even as adept as I am at interviews, there are occasionally some questions that stump me. They are usually questions that are deep and require introspection on another level such as: How would your enemies describe you to us? If I asked you to make a box, what would you…
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Dear Dad – A Father’s Day Letter
Dear Dad, Sorry we haven’t spoken in a while. After you died you made it a little difficult. I’m not blaming you, Dad, but talking is difficult with you dead. Actually, it was difficult the last few years as Alzheimer’s set in. That was really hard to watch. You were a chatty guy, always opinionated, always passionate, and I miss that about you. I miss our talks, and I wonder what we would talk about if you were still alive. Would you be surprised or pleased with the way I’ve turned out as a husband and father? You probably wouldn’t be surprised, except that I haven’t run for president yet.…
